The beautiful brain

I was always fascinated with medicine, neuroscience in particular. I was always thinking how something which weighs on average 1.5 kg (adult brain) can be so amazing, incredible and do so much.

Then I had kids. I get to see on daily basis how their little brain works and functions.

According to University of Denver, Morgridge College of Education, Marsico Institute for Early Learning and Development ‘The period between 0-3 years is the fastest rate of brain development across the entire human life span’. We can observe this on daily basis when a child explores everything, every little thing is fascinating and interesting. Everyone heard the expression that ‘a Child’s brain is like a sponge’, it really does take in everything. They are born talented and fearless, they can achieve everything and anything they want.

My children are being brought up in a multi-language environment (3 languages to be precise). My 2 year old can easily express herself in all 3 language depends on whom she is speaking with. The study also says that ‘All humans are born with ability to learn any language’. In the early stage of development the learning process is natural and easy for them. I observe my daughter and see hoe easy it is to her to say what she wants in all 3 languages. The study also proved that ‘ Learning more than 1 language improves cognitive development’.

In their studies they also found out that ‘Parents who frequently talk to their babies, increase children’s vocabulary by 300 words by the age of 2’. So if you read, talk and play with your child from the birth they will be able to communicate with you easier and (quite possibly) faster. We have such a huge selection of beautiful kids stories to read, so many stories to tell them, why not start now? I have 2 favourite times of the day. One when my older daughter is napping and I get my 9 month old only to myself, I talk to him, read to him and see how much he loves ‘ME time’ with Mommy. The other time is when my daughter is in her pajamas lying on our bed and we read to her her favourite fairy tales and she cuddles with us and repeat as much as she can. Reading also helps ‘to stimulate brain development by 50% of infants and toddlers’ if parents read to them routinely.

I love being at home with my babies. I always instinctively knew that’s the best for me and my children. The research proved my approach ‘A strong parent-child bond in early childhood prepares children to better handle stress throughout life’. Each parent, whether they work inside or outside home can create a strong bond with the children, it takes commitment and time (cleaning, ironing, washing can wait). When the child feels secure and loved he will grow up to be a strong, independent and confident person.

Just as a conclusion to my brain talk today I will quote one more fact from the research.

‘By the time they are 3, children’s brains have formed 1000 trillion connections between neurons.’

Now let’s keep remembering that we are surrounded by little geniuses 🙂

Aga Schnier is a founder of ParentingClub2014, Mother and Law of Attraction Master Practitioner which she currently uses to promote positive parenting techniques.

Terrible Two’s?

Your child turns 2 and suddenly the transformation begins.Your so far lovely little angel turns into a little monster.As a parent are you supposed to dread this time? Yes and no. Let’s try to understand what is happening with your little one.

Your child is living in the NOW. Time, and time restraints are completely abstract to the child. They do not understand when you say ‘We are finishing in 5 minutes’.It is much better to say ‘We go on the slide 3 more times and then we are going home for dinner’.

Their favourite word is NO. ‘Do you want to drink? NO’, ‘Do you want to play with the track? NO. It seems like nothing you do or say can please your child. It’s not like that. Your child learnt that he is and individual and now is able to manifest his own ‘I’, his identity.

He wants to do everything by HIMSELF. A 2 year old wants to put his own shoes, pants, shirt. Let him do it, after all you want to have an independent child, one day, so you and your child need to start somewhere. Let him put on pants, be there to help if needed. Remember to be patient, child doesn’t understand that you maybe in a hurry. It is better to give him extra few minutes to get dresses rather than getting upset that you are running late.

He speaks a lot however doesn’t understand everything. It’s a common misconception, we think that if a child talks a lot and seems to use the words in the right context and repeat them that he has mastered the difficult art of understanding. Nothing more wrong. The child is not able to fully comprehend adult language as of yet. That’s why my 2 year old keeps asking the same questions throughout the day. As she needs to process the words in her head and make the connections so that she can remember the answer.

He is extremely active. 2 year olds do not walk, they RUN. It’s all about speed and effectiveness. They have mastered the art of walking so now it’s time to make it even more fun (for the parents) and that means they run everywhere and always. They have huge amount of energy and they need to burn it off.

They are fussy, cranky and they exaggerate in every aspect. Many 2 year olds become fussy eaters, at least temporarily (by doing so they claim their independence and show their preference), they become easily cranky, due to lack of sleep, thirst or food.

Above all they like to exaggerate their emotions, they fall and they cry like there is no tomorrow, and at the same time when they show you how much they love you they love you with their entire body. They kiss, they hug and say it as much as they can.

Even though 2 year olds can be challenging it is important for the parents to stay calm and be supportive to their children. I know staying calm may be difficult when your child decides to paint the TV, usually a firm ‘NO’ does the trick and it is really super if all the adults in the childs life say no to the same things at this time. You can always remove the child from the environment (remember not to pull or push them, simply pick them up). Take them to another room, distract them. 2 year olds can go from one emotion to another within a split second. Use this to your advantage, distract them, by singing, goofing around, dancing,

Your child is building fundaments of becoming independent human being, this is just a phase. How you react will be a major contributor to the patterns that they develop later in childhood. Even if you lose your calmness and screamed at your child, do not be ashamed to apologize to your child, but do not blame the child either. Say ‘I’m sorry I screamed at you. I love you very much’. By doing so you are teaching your child the difficult art of apologizing.

That age is just a phase, your child is a highly creative, fearless and extremely loveable little person. When they come and cuddle you and hug you it’s the best feeling in the world. Plus their smiles and laugh compensate for everything else.

You are doing a great job as a parent.

Aga Schnier is a founder of ParentingClub2014, Mother and Law of Attraction Master Practitioner which she currently uses to promote positive parenting techniques.